The Best Ways to Put Passion Back into Your Romance!

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By following these simply steps – You can reignite your intimacy, passion, and play!

Ah, routine. Repeating those day-to-day patterns can bring us comfort when life gets a little crazy — but it create a dullness or sense of boredom when they’re what define our lives and relationship interactions. Just as we settle into work and career routines, we tend to get into patterns with our partners and start “going through the motions”. Even the ever popular “date night” concept becomes routine and dull if that’s what you do week after week after week.

So let’s mix it up a bit!

Intimacy, passion and play are the trio of goodies that everybody (or, well, everybody who craves an exciting love life) wants in their intimate relationship. They’re the three amigos of vibrant relationships. And if you want intimacy, passion, and play then you need to uncover, acknowledge, and finally bust up your boring old relationship patterns. Here are three great ideas to get you started.

Pattern-Buster #1Grow Intimacy By Always Being Willing To Be Surprised
There’s a little-known movie about a relationship that just screams out for pattern-busting: Take This Waltz has a wonderful restaurant scene (you can watch it by clicking here), where the couple are out for their fifth wedding anniversary and she wonders why they’re not talking to each other. “Don’t you think it’s a bit weird that we’re sitting here not talking to each other?” she asks. And he responds, “What’re we going to talk about? We live together; we know everything already.”

Straight to the heart with the salad fork! We will never know everything there is to know about our partners, just as we will never know everything there is to know about ourselves! Ever.

True, there’s lots you do know about yourself and your partner; his or her likes, dislikes, habits, and hangups… but unless we’ve turned off all of our curiosity for life, we’re all growing, discovering, and morphing every day. So who is this person you’re waking up beside today? And are they really the same person you woke up to yesterday? Start talking and find out!

So how do you bust up the pattern that has you believing that you know each other so completely? One great way is to find questions to ask each other. The IF book series is a great example. Random questions, many of which you likely haven’t ever thought about. These make great conversation starters. We have spent a whole dinner on one juicy question (and sometimes we get through a dozen in an evening). If you’re traveling anytime soon, we have a set of travel related questions that do the same thing. Take your book or your question list out on your next romantic evening, and date night will never be the same again!

Pattern-Buster #2Grow Passion By Making Love Everyday
So, how many of you naughty ones skipped straight to this pattern-buster? Before you get heated up (with either excitement or fear!) we’re not talking about having sex everyday (although go for it, if it’ll bust up a pattern!). So many of us associate “making love” with “having sex”, and if we’re not having sex then we forget all the other ways there are to pay loving attention to our partners. Making love in a huge variety of ways actually renders the “sex version” of making love even juicier, richer, and more desirable for both of you.

So how do you make love to your partner on a day-by-day, moment-by-moment basis? Look at them with love and appreciation in your mind. Look at them with love and desire in your body. Make eye contact, and hold it. Say “I love you” without saying a word — trust us, they’ll hear you! Touch him as you pass in the kitchen. Run your hand across her back. Squeeze her shoulder. Ruffle his hair. Show him that his presence is important to you, that you know he’s there, that he isn’t just a piece of furniture or a practical partner.

And bust up the pattern that mandates loving touch or sensual glances need to signal an invitation to sex. Many couples report limiting these actions because they believe (and likely have experienced) their partner misinterpret them as invitations to sex while they’re just not in the mood. This means that couples are missing out on lots of moment-to-moment pleasure.

Here’s our big pattern busting challenge: Create an evening together where you engage in some of the things that you might traditionally do as foreplay to sex. Perhaps you dress in attractive lingerie (or lounging pajamas for the guys!). Perhaps you have a bath together or you give each other a massage. Perhaps you cover the room in candles. Do whatever you can think of that might put you in the mood and incite feelings of romance and affection.

But before you start, make an agreement that sex is off the table for just this one night. And see what happens. How do you react? Do you get disinterested? Do you relax? What chatter goes on in your mind? How does your body feel? Share all of that with your partner and explore what you can discover about yourselves and each other. And then wonder: How can I continue to expand the ways I make love to my partner, every day? (And do enjoy passionate sex as well).

Pattern-Buster #3Grow Play By Walking A Mile In Your Partner’s Shoes
Cooling down from heat and passion, our third pattern busting challenge looks at the routines we’ve created in our day-to-day life routines: doing the dishes, taking out the garbage, bathing the kids, planning meals, cooking, cutting the grass — you know, the hum of life that you likely have down to a fine art. He does this, she does that, and you don’t stop to wonder whose turn it is or if you might enjoy a different task today. And some of that is great, but every once in a while, wouldn’t you like a change?

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How to Revive Your Relationships!

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Remember a time when you couldn’t keep your hands off your partner? One look, one touch, and you’d spend all day glowing in what felt like an all-consuming passion. You were hot.  You were interested.  You seemed to have endless energy and time for romance and love making.

But, now that you’ve been together awhile, things have changed.

Your days are now filled with to-do lists and social obligations rather than steamy all-nighters and poetic love notes. When your partner caresses you, you might get sleepy rather than turned on. A nap or watching TV might sound better than sex.

You love your partner, but maybe you’re just not “feeling it” anymore.

When we first fall in love, the romantic thrill happens effortlessly because pleasure-boosting hormones create a neuro-chemical cocktail that drive us toward greater intimacy.  Nothing is more important than being with that one person who makes you feel like you’re on fire. It certainly didn’t take planning or feel like work to keep the flames of lust burning and your interest in one another growing.

Unfortunately, this euphoria rarely last forever especially when the demands and responsibilities of real life take over.  Suddenly, there’s precious little time or energy left over in your day for an affectionate caress, an intimate conversation,  yet alone  making out on the couch or a full  night of romance.

It isn’t long before your partner seems more like a roommate than a lover.  You lay down each night next to a person who feels miles away from you. You begin to wonder if you even know each other anymore.  When this emotional disconnect starts to happen,  you’re treading into the danger zone.

For monogamous couples, is it just a matter of time before the romance is dead and the relationship begins to drift apart?

Not necessarily. It depends on the little things you do on a daily basis that can mean the difference between a passionate, thriving relationship and one that’s on a slow death walk towards infidelity or divorce.

Is it really possible to keep the passion and romance alive after 5, 10, 20 years together?

Absolutely.   Giving each other  a daily dose of what I call the 3 A’s—attention, appreciation and affection—are the critical factors in keeping any relationship alive with interest and desire.

If a nap (watching TV, being on Facebook, chatting with friends) sounds better than making love to you… here’s 6 strategies to  immediately apply to get the enthusiasm and closeness back pronto:

1. Show your love in small ways.

Try this. Leave a love note on their pillow, stuck in their purse, briefcase or book they’re reading. Bring home a special treat you know your partner will love. Text, call or email them to say, “I’m thinking of you.”  Write a list of all the reasons you love and appreciate them and whisper each one into their ear. Sometimes it’s the little gestures that make the biggest impression.

2. Shake things up.

Break through the ho-hum “I’m so bored” barrier that often plagues long-term relationships by learning something or doing something new together. Sharing activities of mutual interest is the glue that makes relationship work and create happiness.    Go ice skating, take a salsa lesson, rent roller-blades, go for a full moon hike, rent a bicycle built for two, or celebrate a milestone other than your anniversary—like the anniversary of the first day you made love.  It’s amazing what getting out of your normal routine and pushing your comfort boundaries will do for your love life.

3. Be generous with praise.

What you focus your attention on, grows.  Say “thank you,” offer a hug, pay your partner a compliment—anything that communicates you acknowledge and value how important they are to you and that you appreciate them.

Accentuating the positive and what is good in each other and in the relationship is a win/win for both partners. When you feel grateful for the good things in your life, you attract more of those good things to you.

4. Touch and embrace often.

So many couples hold back kissing, touching, or holding each other until they have time or the desire to have sex.   Researchers have found that  holding hands relieves stress and affectionate touch boosts the body’s feel good hormones.  Let’s face it, touch is a fundamental part of our existence since we were born. So even a simple hug each day is actually good for your health and well-being.    Hold hands.   Stroke your partner’s arm or shoulder softly as you walk by. Give your partner a 20 second kiss when they walk in the door or are leaving for the day.   Affection is the way to make love all day outside of the bedroom.

5. Create intimate time.

Nothing says “I love you” like spending quality alone time together.  Before rushing out the door in a frenzy in the morning, get up one hour earlier and share breakfast in bed, read an inspirational passage aloud,  or go for an early morning walk.  At the end of the day, instead of plunking down in front of the TV or computer,  give each other a massage, take a shower together or do something novel like reading erotic literature out loud or telling each other steamy stories before turning in for the night.   Carving out time during the day to be intimate and present to your partner strengthens your bond and builds the desire for affection, setting the stage for great lovemaking.

6. Communicate clearly, honestly and frequently

Talking to each other is one the main tools we use to connect with each other. When  we extend ourselves and let our partner know who we are, what we need and how we feel, we open the doors to greater intimacy.  Take at least 30 minutes and put out your ‘do not disturb sign’ to the world. Turn off the phone, close the door, and tell the kids, unless there is an emergency, not to even think about knocking. Then, sit down and take a few minutes to breathe and settle in with each other. Ask your partner what he or she needs from you.  Take turns. Openness and honesty are essential. The goal is to show more and see more of each other, rather than defend the status quo. It takes time and patience but is worth it.

You get out of your relationship what you invest into it. When you make daily love “deposits” of attention, appreciation and affection into your relationship account, you’ll be able to maintain a healthy and sexy love “balance”. By following these six simple strategies and making love a priority in your life, everything else in your life will feel a whole lot sweeter.

 

Every Woman Needs to be Impressed! This is How!

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Is there a way to tell if you’re in love? Well, yes, and studies confirm that the measuring stick is how much laughter there is in your relationship!

We’ve all heard the saying that laughter is the best medicine, and it really is true.

It helps to relieve tension and stress, enhances mood and creativity, and boosts energy. Laughter also plays a vital role in building strong, healthy relationships because it creates intimacy and brings people closer together.

Enjoy these Relationships Humor!

To Impress Every Woman, this is How!

Wine her,
Dine her,
Call her,
Hug her,
Support her,
Hold her,
Surprise her,
Compliment her,
Smile at her,
Listen to her,
Laugh with her,
Cry with her,
Romance her,
Encourage her,
Believe in her,
Pray with her,
Pray for her,
Cuddle with her,
Shop with her,
Give her jewelry,
Buy her flowers,
Hold her hand,
Write love letters to her,
Go to the end of the Earth and back again for her.

HOW TO IMPRESS A MAN:

Show up in a negligee… Bring chicken wings… Don’t block the TV.

Author: Anonymous

Relationship Humor: Women and Men

“Cash, check or charge?” I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase.
As she fumbled for her wallet I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse.

“So, do you always carry your TV remote?” I asked.
“No,” she replied, “but my husband refused to come shopping with me, and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to him legally.”

Relationship Humor: A Man’s Perspective

I know I’m not going to understand women. I’ll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax, pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root, and still be afraid of a spider.

Relationship Humor: Marriage Seminar

While attending a Marriage Seminar dealing with communication, Tom and his wife Grace listened as the instructor explained, “It is essential that husbands and wives know each other’s likes and dislikes.”

He addressed the man, “Can you name your wife’s favorite flower?”
Tom leaned over, touched his wife’s arm gently and whispered, “It’s Pillsbury, isn’t it?”

Relationship Humor: Wife vs Husband

A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word. An earlier discussion had led to an argument and neither of them wanted to concede their position.
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs, the husband asked sarcastically, “Relatives of yours?”

“Yep,” the wife replied, “in-laws.”

Relationship Humor: W O R D S

A husband read an article to his wife that explained that women use 30,000 words a day compared to a man’s use of 15,000 words.
The wife replied, “The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men.”
The husband then turned to his wife and said,”What?”

Relationship Humor: Creation

A man said to his wife one day, “I don’t know how you can be so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.
The wife responded, “Allow me to explain: God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!”

Relationship Humor: Who Does What

A man and his wife were having an argument about who should brew the coffee each morning. The wife said, “You should do it, because you get up first, and then we don’t have to wait as long to get our coffee.”

The husband said, “You are in charge of cooking around here and you should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.”

The Wife replied, “No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Bible that the man should do the coffee.”

With that the husband balked, saying, “I can’t believe that, show me.”
The wife then fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament and showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says……….”HEBREWS”

Relationship Humor – The Silent Treatment

A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight.

Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and lose), he wrote on a piece of paper, “Please wake me at 5:00 AM.” He then left it where he knew she would find it.

The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to confront his wife to see why she hadn’t wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed. The paper read, “It is 5:00 AM. Wake up.”

Author: Anonymous

Relationship Humor: Happy Endings

She spent the first day packing her belongings into boxes, crates and suitcases. On the second day, she had the movers come and collect her things. On the third day, she sat down for the last time at their beautiful dining room table by candlelight, put on some soft background music, And feasted on a pound of shrimp, a jar of caviar, and a bottle of Chardonnay.

When she had finished, she went into each and every room and stuffed half-eaten shrimp shells dipped in caviar, into the hollow of the all of the curtain rods. She then cleaned up the kitchen and left.

When the husband returned with his new girlfriend, all was bliss for the first few days. Then slowly, the house began to smell. They tried everything, cleaning, mopping, and airing the place out. Vents were checked for dead rodents, and carpets were steam cleaned.

Air fresheners were hung everywhere. Exterminators were brought in to set off gas canisters, during which they had to move out for a few days, and in the end they even Paid to replace the expensive wool carpeting.

Nothing worked. People stopped coming over to visit. Repairmen Refused to work in the house. The maid quit. Finally, they could not take the stench any longer and decided to move. A month later, even though they had cut their price in half, they could not find a buyer for their stinky house.

Word got out, and eventually, even the local realtors refused to return their calls.

Finally, they had to borrow a huge sum of money from the bank to purchase a new place.

The ex-wife called the man, and asked how things were going. He told her the saga of the rotting house. She listened politely, and said that she missed her old home terribly, and would be willing to reduce her divorce settlement in exchange for getting the house back.

Knowing his ex-wife had no idea how bad the smell was, he agreed on a price that was about 1/10th of what the house had been worth, but only If she were to sign the papers that very day. She agreed, and within the hour his lawyers delivered the paperwork. A week later the man and his girlfriend stood smiling as they watched the moving company pack everything to take to their new home, including the curtain rods.

DON’T YOU JUST LOVE A HAPPY ENDING?

Author: Anonymous

Relationship Humor: Are Computers Masculine or Feminine?

A French Teacher was explaining to her class that in French, unlike English, nouns are designated as either masculine or feminine. E.g. ‘house’ is feminine – ‘la maison’, ‘Pencil’ is masculine – ‘le crayon’. A student asked, ‘what gender is ‘computer’? Instead of giving the answer, the teacher split the class into 2 groups – male and female and asked them to decide for themselves whether ‘computer’ should be a masculine or feminine noun. Each group was asked to give four reasons for the recommendations.

The men’s group decided that computers should definitely be of the feminine gender because:

1. No one but their creator understands their internal logic.
2. The native language they use to communicate with other computers is incomprehensible to everyone else.
3. Even the smallest mistakes are stored in long-term memory for immediate later retrieval. And…
4. As soon as you make a commitment to one, you find yourself spending half your paycheck on accessories for it.

The women’s group, however, concluded that computers should be masculine because:
1. In order to do anything with them, you have to turn them on.
2. They have a lot of data but still can’t think for themselves.
3. They are supposed to help you solve problems, but half the time, they ARE the problem, And…
4. As soon as you commit to one, you realize that if you had waited a little longer, you could have gotten a better model.

The women won.

Author: Anonymous

LAUGHTER

“Laughter drains all stress for the whole day.”

We Hope You Enjoyed These Humor!

How to make the very best of your Relationships

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These are relationship tips you need. If you could improve your love life in twenty easy steps would you do it? Does your happiness and the happiness of your Sweetheart really matter? And, if you and your Sweetheart could be closer than ever, more in love than ever, and totally into each other, would you do your part to make it happen?

If making your love relationship the best it can be appeals to you, then you’ll love the following relationship tips.

Many of this advice is backed up by amazing quotes that are packed with tons of wisdom and great advice. Best of all, these gems are short, sweet, and to the point. This makes it easy for your to remember and apply. So let’s get right to it.

Important Relationship Tips #1-5

Develop couple rituals that are known only to you.

  1. Develop couple rituals that are known only to you.

There’s something special about sharing something with someone that you do not share with anyone else. Creating rituals is a great way to build a special connection with your Sweetheart. And know this….it doesn’t need to be anything big or over the top. You can create special times by talking walks together, sharing intimate bath time, or setting aside “alone time.”

2. Let go of the little things.

 

  • “The formula for achieving a successful relationship is simple: you should treat all disasters as if they were trivialities but never treat a triviality as if it were a disaster.” ~ Quentin CrispNow, you are truly honest, you’ll realize that most of the things that upset you in your relationship are little things.

3. Forgive when it’s hard. And mean it.

One of my favorite quotes is, “Love me when I deserve it least, because that’s when I need it the most.” It’s easy to love when things are going good, but can you learn to forgive and love your Sweetheart even harder? That’s the sign of true love.

4. Give more than you take in your relationship.

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” ~ Tony Robbins

5. Communicate, communicate, communicate!

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~ George Bernard Shaw

If you can talk to your Sweetheart, then you will not have much of a relationship. You must be able to share your thoughts and feelings. After all, neither one of you are mind readers. So talk and just as importantly, listen to each other. You’ll be surprised by what you learn about the person you care about.

Important Relationship Tips #6-10

6. Consider things from your Sweetheart’s perspective.

It’ll help foster understanding and a deeper bond between you.

“I don’t think seeing things from the others point of view is as important as validating their point of view. If someone says something they feel a certain way, I may not understand why. All I can do is agree that their feelings are as important to them as mine are to me. That does not mean I have to agree.” ~ Unknown

7. Before you blame, examine yourself first.

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” ~ Wayne Dyer

8. Be faithful to your Sweetheart, both emotionally and physically.

If you love someone, then that person should be enough for you. The key is that you need to keep things fresh and exciting, which is one of the purposes of this Site. So don’t just read great relationship tips and quotes on Youtube-LoveSongs.com, ACT!

9. Let it be okay that you don’t see eye-to-eye on everything. Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree.

“If you have learned how to disagree without being disagreeable, then you have discovered the secrete of getting along – whether it be business, family relations, or life itself.” ~ Bernard Meltzer

10. Work on goals and dreams together. Planning is half the joy.

If you and your Sweetheart are in it for the long-haul then dreaming, planning, and working towards common goals is important. This reinforces that you are a couple moving into the future together. Besides, this solidifies you guys as a team. Two people building something special and lasting.

Important Relationship Tips #11-15

11. Accept your Sweetheart as it. Celebrate your Baby for the person they are. Face it – you can’t change them, but you can change your attitude about their quirks.

“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.” ~ Unknown

12. Be flexible. You cannot always have your way.

“If you’re in a relationship and you want to make it work, you have to be a little selfless at times.” ~ Montell Williams

13. Share your vulnerabilities and fears with your Sweetheart. A load carried by two is easier than one carried alone.

“It gives you a break from trying to pretend you’re always right and you don’t have any flaws. It gives you permission to show your authentic self.” ~ Tiny Budha

14. Don’t hide things from your Sweetheart. Trust is fragile ~ handle with care.

Secrets and lies are never a good things, because they always seem to have a way of cropping up at the worst times. Honesty, sharing, and communication are a huge must for a successful love relationship.

15. Do little romantic things for your Sweetheart. Send love notes ~a card, text, voice mail, or message on a sticky note or the bathroom mirror will do.

Important Relationship Tips #16-20

16. Laugh. A lot. Love and laughter are the ultimate tonics for a satisfying and happy relationship. So have fun, laugh together, and enjoy life together.

17. Speak respectfully of your Sweetheart. They like to hear you talk about them favorably in front of others, but it means even more when you talk glowingly about them when they aren’t around. It’s important that you ALWAYS have your Baby’s back. Always!

18. Encourage your mate to be the best person they can be. Support their hobbies, learning interests, and passions. Be their biggest fan.

19. Apologize when you wrong. And mean it.

It’s take a big person to admit to mistakes. But it’s well worth it. When you own up to mistakes to set the foundation for an open and honest relationship. See, nobody’s perfect and when someone can accept our faults and all…it strengthens the love, the security, the relationship.

20. Love yourself. You cheat your Sweetheart out of experiencing the best of you, because if are not happy with who you are as a person, then you broadcast the more negative things about yourself. Don’t do that. You have a lot to offer your Sweetheart, so give your Baby the best of you. That’s what you do when you really love someone.